tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post4644143559952144792..comments2023-11-03T08:22:02.385-05:00Comments on The Everyday Adventures of Me in the City: The sweetest sin? Living in itBayjbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09544971638369054902noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-41368850643955589372009-02-12T12:37:00.000-06:002009-02-12T12:37:00.000-06:00I lived with the ex boyfriend for a while out of n...I lived with the ex boyfriend for a while out of necessity and it certainly gave me a different perspective of our relationship.<BR/><BR/>But, I think that living with someone before you're married and living with someone after are two totally different things. I think you react to some things differently. When something goes wrong and you're not married, you feel like you have much more of an out than you do after the fact.<BR/><BR/>Granted, I'm not saying that from experience, just from bits of insight I've gleaned from my married friends.The Modern Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08663558561522180816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-58890531227236980262009-02-11T15:41:00.000-06:002009-02-11T15:41:00.000-06:00Moved in 3 mo after we got engaged and so glad. It...Moved in 3 mo after we got engaged and so glad. Its been a very enlightening year not to mention financially beneficial. We've learned even more about one another and the art of compromise. Hopefully this will make for a little less shell-shock once its finally official.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03781126660353010295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-48955924237806573792009-02-11T14:10:00.000-06:002009-02-11T14:10:00.000-06:00I am ALL ABOUT sinning. Literally, all about it.Wh...I am ALL ABOUT sinning. Literally, all about it.<BR/><BR/>What's funny though, is that way back when, when my mom and I had the "you are having sex and now I feel compelled to tell you what a ho you are" talk - she was REALLY REALLY stressing the whole "I don't want you to live with a boy before you marry him" point.<BR/><BR/>Which does not make sense to me. Sorry, mom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-23276238155284749452009-02-11T11:18:00.000-06:002009-02-11T11:18:00.000-06:00I am 100% behind living together before marriage -...I am 100% behind living together before marriage - only drawback: you don't get a registry for moving in together and that is when you need all the new stuff. I think you should be able to register when you move in not when you get married.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-1946226990823325262009-02-11T10:38:00.000-06:002009-02-11T10:38:00.000-06:00You HAVE to live with a person first. You learn a...You HAVE to live with a person first. You learn a lot more about them that way. Some good, some bad, but still, this information is vital.surviving myselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13421187332033401147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-90434111221212583502009-02-11T10:17:00.000-06:002009-02-11T10:17:00.000-06:00I'm totally with you on this one. I'd much rather ...I'm totally with you on this one. I'd much rather live with the guy who I'm going to marry (and learn all his home habits) than be surprised after we get married. I think it's the child of divorce in me...EPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600424792398230829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-4502848302688748002009-02-11T08:57:00.000-06:002009-02-11T08:57:00.000-06:00I can understand why people would find it helpful,...I can understand why people would find it helpful, but the hubs and I didn't live together before getting married, and I don't regret it.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11911197321063074394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-82939642522629927902009-02-10T23:35:00.000-06:002009-02-10T23:35:00.000-06:00Yep, living in sin and loving it. Seriously, to us...Yep, living in sin and loving it. Seriously, to us it just makes logical and financial sense, plus we don't actually know any other way. Our entire relationship has either been long distance or living together (albeit with roommates for the fist 2 years).<BR/><BR/>Regardless, I'm totally PRO living in sin. I think it eliminates a lot of potential problems that could be HUGE issues once it's too late.Cazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686803288323819543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-23297919761888661602009-02-10T21:20:00.000-06:002009-02-10T21:20:00.000-06:00Totally did it and totally for it. My friends who ...Totally did it and totally for it. My friends who are anti living together first are often the ones with the messiest relationships. <BR/><BR/>We were able to see that we were completely compatiable. I truly believe you can love someone but not be able to LIVE with them. <BR/><BR/>Love doesn't conquer all. Life isn't a fairy tale and living together makes it pretty apparent whether or not you are able to weather a storm together.StartingOver@28https://www.blogger.com/profile/09166117517886021290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-18416671030889305882009-02-10T20:29:00.000-06:002009-02-10T20:29:00.000-06:00Well, my mother has threatened to revoke the weddi...Well, my mother has threatened to revoke the wedding fund if I move in with DD and I'm just too much of a cheapskate to kick that gift to the curb.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I'm actually more on the fence than I once was. 6 months ago I was all "Gosh it'd be so much more convenient...gosh I love him so much I just want to take the step...etc etc."<BR/><BR/>Now, as inconvenient as living separately is, I'm realizing it's a really big step and I'm a little more scared of it and hesitant to do it, making my mother's demands a bit of a comfort blanket that's keeping me from doing something scary :-) <BR/><BR/>Then again, because of that fear, perhaps it would be good to do. Tackle that fear before having to deal with all the marriage changes. Except, there's a part of me that wants all that newness of marriage that comes with living together. Shoot...that's probably the most altering thing about marriage, right?<BR/><BR/>Basically, I'm a mess of contradictions. But one that leads ever-so-slightly on the pro side of the debate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-7162335352962462852009-02-10T20:27:00.000-06:002009-02-10T20:27:00.000-06:00maybe I would if I could and I really am into the ...maybe I would if I could and I really am into the guy. Not an option though, I'm raised in a pretty conservative Asian family. But for some reasons, people here seem to manage to get married and be okay with that arrangements ( live together only after marriage).Andharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341293139717998410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-37479385840050175692009-02-10T18:59:00.000-06:002009-02-10T18:59:00.000-06:00i would 100% live with a boyfriend prior to marria...i would 100% live with a boyfriend prior to marriage, in fact i encourage it.alexa @clevelandsaplumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455541282046721762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-11948549406710153622009-02-10T18:31:00.000-06:002009-02-10T18:31:00.000-06:00the ex and i lived together before we got married....the ex and i lived together before we got married... it didn't help.<BR/><BR/>current and i live together, we're not officially engaged yet. we moved in together for roomate benefits and we developed into more. that's why...<BR/><BR/>i think you should live together first before you get married, i do believe it will prevent marriages to the wrong people.Living Dees Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05436862324177069484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-71691205664542404752009-02-10T17:04:00.000-06:002009-02-10T17:04:00.000-06:00I do live with my boyfriend and it just seemed rid...I do live with my boyfriend and it just seemed ridiculous not to. We can't get married til I am within a year of graduating because it would mess with my student loans and I was practically living with him before and it just seemed ridiculous that I was paying rent for an apt. I was never at. And there was no engagement because neither of us want a long engagement. It always surprises me when I hear people who are so against it. I have a friend who refuses to move in with her bf and continues to rent an apt. that she's never at. I just don't get it.Megkathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607783073882197697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-57016439991979891842009-02-10T16:32:00.000-06:002009-02-10T16:32:00.000-06:00Living w/the person you're in a relationship befor...Living w/the person you're in a relationship before marriage is a total must.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17795526911040698284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-52387250454975594862009-02-10T16:24:00.000-06:002009-02-10T16:24:00.000-06:00Also, it's not the religion part that would keep m...Also, it's not the religion part that would keep me from living with my boyfriend, its the importance of marriage part.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-71274218243268201902009-02-10T16:19:00.000-06:002009-02-10T16:19:00.000-06:00If you are emotionally ready and mature enough to ...If you are emotionally ready and mature enough to marry someone (not to mention incredibly in love) then little quirks that you discover while living with someone should not be an issue. I personally don't want to be married until I am, so therfore I would never live with someone before. <BR/><BR/>Stats show that people who don't live together prior to marriage are less likely to get divorced. I think a big reason for this is since they don't live with people prior, marriage is a bigger deal to them. If you live with someone prior to marriage and it doesn't go well, then it's almost as marriage is just a big party with gifts versuses the commitment that it is. <BR/><BR/>Not in favor of it personally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-37316484144456468762009-02-10T16:00:00.000-06:002009-02-10T16:00:00.000-06:00I guess I am going against the majority here but I...I guess I am going against the majority here but I do not believe in living together before marriage. It's a personal choice but I knew I would never do it. My husband and I dated for 5 years before we married and have been happily married for almost 12 years now. I think dating them for a while and really getting to know them is key, not living with them. I mean, if it works out and you get married, great. But I have a friend who lived with her boyfriend and then they broke up. She said telling her future husband that she had lived with some other guy was the hardest thing ever. To me, if someone wants to live with you and be with you all the time, they should make that commitment and marry you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-33816028600206844752009-02-10T15:16:00.000-06:002009-02-10T15:16:00.000-06:00It's unbelievable to me how the times change. It'...It's unbelievable to me how the times change. It's sad to me that living together before marriage is so status quo now. If you are picking the right person to begin with, you won't need to live together because little annoying cohabitational things aren't going to come between you. I didn't live with my husband before we were married for that reason and because we are Christians and we don't believe in living in sin. It's part of what made our wedding night and the first year we were married so fun and special. And yeah, I found out that he has to be asked to take the trash out, doesn't put a new bag in, and leaves his clothes on the floor like 2 feet from the hamper, but I love him anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-73053767546016086082009-02-10T15:08:00.000-06:002009-02-10T15:08:00.000-06:00I completely agree with you about people living to...I completely agree with you about people living together before they get married. Getting married is a big change, and you don't want to add getting used to living with someone to the mix. <BR/><BR/>Plus living with you tells you so much about a person. Are the clean or cluttery? Do they stay up late or get up early? Are you two compatible? <BR/><BR/>We all know how hard it can sometimes be to live with a roommate. you don't want to find that out after you've already pledged to spend the rest of your lives together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-68573177315931972832009-02-10T14:46:00.000-06:002009-02-10T14:46:00.000-06:00Heh, that was the topic of conversation for E and ...Heh, that was the topic of conversation for E and me the other day... see today's post for more info on THAT. We're both pro, but both of our families are very much against it. So if we do move in together I think we'll plead economic hardship and say we're saving money.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06844013820844056584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-55899209745923402832009-02-10T14:25:00.000-06:002009-02-10T14:25:00.000-06:00i totally agree with you and i think that living t...i totally agree with you and i think that living together before marriage is the best thing to do. i'm not saying that if matt and i didn't live together we wouldn't get married eventually, but i think that living together has been so much fun and definitely has let us know each others quirks and ways to work around them before we even consider bigger things, like marriage. <BR/><BR/>so yeah i'm a huge believer in sinning :)Katelinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994241556437259884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-56445925957385807592009-02-10T13:52:00.000-06:002009-02-10T13:52:00.000-06:00I never had much opinion about living together or ...I never had much opinion about living together or not living together before marriage. Until of course, I got married. We decided to wait and I moved in a month before our wedding. The year that followed was the longest pain-in-the-ass of my life. <BR/><BR/>I am now very pro-living together, especially once a long-term commitment (legal marriage or otherwise)is decided upon. I think it's incredibly different than even long-term dating... or it was for me.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02301893849950404073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-90336108545136002762009-02-10T13:39:00.000-06:002009-02-10T13:39:00.000-06:00I'm all for living together. But I do want to know...I'm all for living together. But I do want to know that we are on track to a bigger commitment. I've know too many people who move into together immediately following their marriage and went through months of "transition", to but it nicely.chickbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765446853881406091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-23890551439961065982009-02-10T13:38:00.002-06:002009-02-10T13:38:00.002-06:00I feel the same way about living together before m...I feel the same way about living together before marriage as I do about sex before marriage--you have to try it out before you sign on for a lifetime.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com