tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post6783737555917256668..comments2023-11-03T08:22:02.385-05:00Comments on The Everyday Adventures of Me in the City: The dating "cut off" ageBayjbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09544971638369054902noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-22138175524406762652012-11-12T06:21:06.624-06:002012-11-12T06:21:06.624-06:00I have a proven record of exemplary business acume...I have a proven record of exemplary business acumen and keen insight into the details of the market. It will work for whole year and so on. Worked with NY Dox Services LTD in Janakpuri as a Quality Analyst II in a medical transcription process.Eduardoagykhttp://www.plurk.com/p/hk4wspnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-17360703224622049622008-12-05T11:09:00.000-06:002008-12-05T11:09:00.000-06:00I have dating cutoff ages, too.I absolutely refuse...I have dating cutoff ages, too.<BR/><BR/>I absolutely refuse to think about someone in a date-ish way if they are younger than my sister who is 2.5 years younger than me. That's probably a bad cutoff, but it makes me feel really weird. *shrugs*EPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600424792398230829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-72370992011146113092008-11-29T14:44:00.000-06:002008-11-29T14:44:00.000-06:00OMG I just read your post and the timing is incred...OMG I just read your post and the timing is incredible! Yesterday I met a guy with whom I have a date next week and he is 3 years younger than me!<BR/>I know that three years are like nothing, but me bein 24 and him 21? I think at this age 3 years are a huge time span!<BR/><BR/>Oh and I also don't think I would date someone who is 38 couse thats like 14 years my major!<BR/>but I also think you shouldn't say never because next thing you know you all in love with someone in their 40s!<BR/><BR/>Lots of Lovesummershoegalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218404610822653396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-14615280003252777082008-11-27T21:11:00.000-06:002008-11-27T21:11:00.000-06:00Girl, this is something I struggle with daily! I'...Girl, this is something I struggle with daily! I'm 28 and my "cut off" age is 25 or 31, although I tend to get hit on by men younger than 25 (the fact that I look 25 prob. doesn't help!) I don't think I'm picky, but selective, yes. Uh yeah, and the online dating stuff...I usually get a variety of men my age, but then a few stragglers who are like 40 from Texas or something. Don't they read the age limitations I put down?! btw, love your blog :)Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15288623357837660451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-91147779582997192102008-11-27T16:36:00.000-06:002008-11-27T16:36:00.000-06:00I'm sure you have enough storied to answer your qu...I'm sure you have enough storied to answer your question by now; however, I will say that every woman I've dated say they have cutoff age (younger and older), and they have all moved off of those quite easily. <BR/><BR/>I always find the justifications fascinating.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-3097221908527738592008-11-27T11:59:00.000-06:002008-11-27T11:59:00.000-06:00I'm pretty open with dating older guys. Since high...I'm pretty open with dating older guys. Since high school I have been going higher and higher in age of the guys I am dating. I started with a real age gap at age 20, where the guy I was seeing was 26. After him, I dated a guy at 22 who was 33. That was my ex. We had a great relationship but ended things when we realized we wanted different things from life. Like I want kids, he doesn't. Pretty major I must say. Now I am seeing a guy who is 28, I'm 23 and he has two kids!! Nothing like chasing a little adventure!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-77044924563931477612008-11-26T12:07:00.000-06:002008-11-26T12:07:00.000-06:00I've dated someone 2 years older and someone 2 yea...I've dated someone 2 years older and someone 2 years younger. Both didn't end well. It always seems to be more successful when I am with someone closer in age. <BR/><BR/>I am only 20 though, so age difference seems to be more important.<BR/><BR/>One of my co-workers is 23 and married to a 44 year old man. I don't really understand that....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-11427155945159238222008-11-26T07:45:00.000-06:002008-11-26T07:45:00.000-06:00I've really enjoyed your perspective (and of all t...I've really enjoyed your perspective (and of all the comments) on dating age limits. You've inspired me to write a similar post from the perspective of a 43 year old guy (me).<BR/><BR/>Check it out:<BR/><BR/>http://technicolouryawp.blogspot.com/2008/11/age-parameters-in-dating-middle-aged.htmlTonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03683986870731516918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-33679381023921239142008-11-26T07:18:00.000-06:002008-11-26T07:18:00.000-06:00My boy will be 22 in December and I'll be 25 in Ma...My boy will be 22 in December and I'll be 25 in March. I wouldn't be able to go more than 5 years older than myself though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-51874631826347180542008-11-26T00:09:00.000-06:002008-11-26T00:09:00.000-06:00My guy is 4 months younger than me, and you'd thin...My guy is 4 months younger than me, and you'd think that it was 4 years by how much fun people make of me. My last boyfriend was 4 years older-- that's the largest gap I have.<BR/><BR/>I generally think that people focus too much on age... but... I find older men who only date younger women a little ridiculous. When my sister was 22, she dated a 38 year old and it drove me a little nuts, honestly, but probably, again, because he usually only dated younger women, and had never even had a serious boyfriend before. Lame.Princess Pointfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-19292034500236163152008-11-25T21:02:00.000-06:002008-11-25T21:02:00.000-06:00I've only dated younger guys. I prefer that. I don...I've only dated younger guys. I prefer that. I don't feel 27, I'm not ready to settle down, I still have "single" stuff I want to accomplish before I get married. I've dated guys who were a few years younger than me and were very mature...so I think it just comes down to the person. <BR/><BR/>Good question!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-54477436050488559232008-11-25T16:45:00.000-06:002008-11-25T16:45:00.000-06:00Oooh! I have two stories/answers. One - I dated ...Oooh! I have two stories/answers. One - I dated an "older" guy when I was 21. He was 26 and at that time, it felt like we were in two totally different worlds. I was entering my senior year of college, working in a cosmetics shop. He was in a "real" job, with a super nice car and friends who were married w/ babies. Now that I'm 25, someone 5 years older doesn't seem old at all, and I'd definitely go out with a 30-year old, no questions. But back then it seemed like such a big lifestyle difference.<BR/><BR/>Younger... I wouldn't necessarily call it dating, but I had this short term fling w/ a guy who was 17 when I was 21 (I don't remember if he was before or after the older guy... pretty sure the younger guy came after... ha). We fooled around, went out on date-like things, sent really sweet and flirty emails and just kind of ran it out until we both found something that suited us more. We're still friends - he'll be 21 in January :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-25914910122411817852008-11-25T16:08:00.000-06:002008-11-25T16:08:00.000-06:00the oldest i dated a guy was 5 years older and the...the oldest i dated a guy was 5 years older and the youngest has been matt, who's 10 days younger, haha. so i don't really have much to add except that i don't think the age thing always matters, it moreso matters where you stand and what you value and what things you do have in common or what you never will. it's tricky, but you'll figure it out. woo.Katelinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994241556437259884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-89763904913750228482008-11-25T15:53:00.000-06:002008-11-25T15:53:00.000-06:00My BF is rounding 40 actually... but he looks like...My BF is rounding 40 actually... but he looks like he's in his late 20s and kind of acts like it :)<BR/><BR/>I never would've guessed 40, had he not told me!!!FB @ FabulouslyBroke.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12966672580040786485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-86314614852714118922008-11-25T15:11:00.000-06:002008-11-25T15:11:00.000-06:00My cutoff was 35...I just never wanted to date any...My cutoff was 35...I just never wanted to date anybody that was more than 10 years older than me. Also, I'm pretty sure you have to be 50 to be a cougar. I have a friend that loves him a cougar and he is in no way interested in twenty somethings.Megkathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607783073882197697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-80195162442684661932008-11-25T14:29:00.000-06:002008-11-25T14:29:00.000-06:00When I was 19 I had the biggest crush on a 34 year...When I was 19 I had the biggest crush on a 34 year old and I totally would have dated him if he asked...so I guess it all depends on the person.<BR/><BR/>Right now? I'd like to stick in the 20's but I could do up to 35 I think.Maxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16309902108360535182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-29621951772948964872008-11-25T14:25:00.000-06:002008-11-25T14:25:00.000-06:00Hmmm. I don't know, I definitely prefer a Silver F...Hmmm. I don't know, I definitely prefer a Silver Fox to a young cougar (is that what the kids are calling them thesedays?!) and experience has proved me right - although I think more than anything I would feel sad to be with someone really a lot older than me, because the chances are you're going to outlive them by a long time. Althouh anything up to 40 really should be ok?Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235077158774802615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-39009819737296640722008-11-25T14:22:00.000-06:002008-11-25T14:22:00.000-06:00I really think it depends on the people involved a...I really think it depends on the people involved and that hard and fast rules are kind of silly. Still, I probably wouldn't jump at a relationship with someone more than 10 years older than me. But I'd never say never.<BR/><BR/>I've been in a relationship for five years with someone who is eight years older than me. When we started dating I was almost 22 and he was almost 30. We have always gotten along smashingly.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047452397679782273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-60816201179844364512008-11-25T14:04:00.000-06:002008-11-25T14:04:00.000-06:00Maybe I'm a snob, but I refuse to date any guy who...Maybe I'm a snob, but I refuse to date any guy who is younger than me, unless it's a matter of months younger. <BR/><BR/>It's definitely the maturity thing. I don't want someone who is still into that whole "college partying" mantra. Yes, please like to go out and have some drinks, maybe even do a shot or two, but don't get plastered EVERY NIGHT. Also, commitment is a big thing, too. The younger they are, the more likely they're afraid of commitment, and that's something I'm working toward. <BR/><BR/>I have a friend who is 30 and she is dating a 22 year old. They're happy, though, and that's all that matters. Some people, I think, are emotionally younger than their physical age might suggest. <BR/><BR/>(I already have a great guy and a commitment -- we live together, we're discussing the possibility of marriage sometime down the road, and he is 8 months older than me.) <BR/><BR/>My first boyfriend out of high school was 27 when I was 18. Not a good idea. I was a mature 18 year old who lived on her own in her own studio apartment, but we were at totally different places in our lives. <BR/><BR/>I think if you're under 25, not more than 5 years older is a good rule of thumb. If you're over 25, not more than 10 years older, but anywhere between 5-10 could be a good cutoff, depending on how you feel about the situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-38768371876668582472008-11-25T12:37:00.000-06:002008-11-25T12:37:00.000-06:00I don't think I could date someone over 32. My BF ...I don't think I could date someone over 32. My BF is almost 30 and even that is weird to say.Lauren Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10588271881309574286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-63233598074720508652008-11-25T12:28:00.000-06:002008-11-25T12:28:00.000-06:00I don't really have a cut off age. It mostly depen...I don't really have a cut off age. It mostly depends on the person and their life situation. Usually I get the younger boys though.LBluca77https://www.blogger.com/profile/10940525266896582723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-69713353336000227212008-11-25T11:42:00.000-06:002008-11-25T11:42:00.000-06:00I'm 29 and I personally could not date anyone who ...I'm 29 and I personally could not date anyone who is older than my brother (he's 33). I don't know why, but I just would find it weird if I brought home a guy who is older than him. Younger? I can do younger. But they are always so much more immature... so sigh. Perhaps this is why I'm still single!!!JDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18374546260940575763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-60280863446645099352008-11-25T11:18:00.000-06:002008-11-25T11:18:00.000-06:00I usually stick to older guys, 7 or 8 years my sen...I usually stick to older guys, 7 or 8 years my senior is just about the cuttoff but I try and stay flexible, if the chemistry is there than why not?<BR/><BR/>I once dated a guy that was about a year younger than I am, I'm still not even sure he knows what "maturity" is today, let alone when we dated. He was hott, though.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10381000631095705297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-53466040281820499102008-11-25T11:05:00.000-06:002008-11-25T11:05:00.000-06:00Ugh. Just date a guy because you like him and he a...Ugh. Just date a guy because you like him and he attracts you.(however...) If someone is way older than you, the age difference starts showing as you get older. 25 to 40 is not so bad, really, but 65 to 80 sure is. My mom is 71 and stepdad is 91. He's frail and ill and my mom is still very lively. The only good thing is that she still has the energy to care for him.Prestonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15204517270931392713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8894166322205551970.post-33896420550907937342008-11-25T10:39:00.000-06:002008-11-25T10:39:00.000-06:00In my 20s, I only dated guys my age or a few years...In my 20s, I only dated guys my age or a few years older. But obviously when you're in your 20s, that lower threshold can't be too low. <BR/><BR/>Now I'm 36 and my boyfriend of 2 years is 29. We are at the same level of maturity, so to speak. The age difference really only comes to the surface when I talk about pop culture when I was younger. He's fine with the age difference - we have enough in common that we don't have to had listened to the same music at the same time.<BR/><BR/>The cougar title bugs me a bit, because I'm tired of hearing it. :)Kimberly @ kimberussell.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16575053811271884906noreply@blogger.com