Friday, April 4, 2008

More pre-shower shenanigans

So I am back in Wisconsin, mentally preparing for Sunday's shower carnage (that almost rhymed).

And too keep the pre-shower drama going, I met up with my brother to purchase the gift I will be giving him and his fiancee on Sunday. This might sound odd, but considering he is a guy and won't be there for the shower, I wanted him to at least feel like he would be getting something he would enjoy...in a backwards way.

So we arrive at Target, the Mecca, but in actuality, finding things on their list that are: a) still available b) within my $50 price range (including wrapping supplies) and c) able to be semi-easily wrapped, proved to be a bit more difficult than I thought.

First the Mr. Clean floor brush was too large and awkward to wrap (although Andy mentioned he would be okay with me arriving with it wrapped in a garbage bag and bow - something I'm sure his fiancee would not find amusing), then we could not find the one item I was interested in because its row - B45 - didn't seem to exist. Odd.

Then, I notice on the registry that they asked for two sets of nice wood hangers, retailing at $3.99 each. But it seems that whomever did purchase this registry item, decided to only purchase one of the two sets they asked for. I'm sorry but doesn't that seem kind of...off? You can shell out $3.99 for one but can't dig up another $3.99 to complete the set? So I decided to fix this problem  by completing the set for them, primarily because it was bothering me. In the end, I my total was $47 (thank you Wisconsin sales tax!) and Andy said thank you, but not before calling me "cheap," which made me remind him that he didn't need to get a gift at all. Ungrateful!

He was also kind enough to share that his fiancee asked him to ask me (rather than asking me directly because I'm his sister) that rather than spending $50 on the shower gift, I should only spend $25 and contribute $25 to the shower. When he said he was serious (I thought it was a joke) I said no, which he was fine with, but was dutifully told to at least ask. WTF? Why is this still an issue? I refuse to pay for the shower because of etiquette and her sister's e-mail and to be asked to cut back on a gift that would benefit both of them so that she gets funding for her shower is pretty ballsy. And my answer: I don't think so. I want to get them something that my brother will also be able to enjoy. If this comes up again tomorrow...I don't want to think what my verbal response will be.

Lord. Now tomorrow is off to help stuff invitations (for exactly one hour on my end) and apparently the bride is already worried because nearly a year ago I commented (while slightly drunk) that one of her friends, who is now a fellow bridesmaid, is a pain in the ass (which she is). So now I have to be on my best behavior around her tomorrow so I don't give the bride an ulcer. Kill me now.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

This just in...... The regional nomination for stubborness goes to.......

Anonymous said...

just because you are right
Your reactions are not always right

Cass said...

I can't believe she actually made your brother ask you that! well, take some deep breaths and good luck today... ;-)

Blaez said...

i went through the same hell with my best girl's wedding. it was her 2 older sisters. and her parents kept nagging her to do things "your sisters' way, they've been married before"

we didn't get to do any of the things we wanted to. i was the maid of honor and wasn't allowed to do anything but show up for dress fittings, sit down and keep my mouth shut. and her wedding wasnt "designed" the way she wanted either it was a combo of what her sisters' weddings looked like. she hated it. and as well so did i.

instead of bridezilla we had sistersofthebridezillas

Bayjb said...

Oh my gosh Blaez that sounds awful! I feel bad for the bride. Fortunately the sisters of the bride aren't the issue here althought the bachelorette party is kind of in tatters right now. I'm going to sit out planning that one since I got the invites organized and in an assembly-line format this weekend and got the flow going for the shower. It was like being at work!

Anonymous said...

Please tell me you got them something other than the $3.99 hangers and a whole lot of wrapping paper. Also, I know you're trying to focus on making sure your brother gets something to "enjoy" but keep in mind that what he might really "enjoy" is seeing his bride having a good time instead of freaking out about keeping peace amongst her bridal party and family...

Bayjb said...

I did get them more than $3.99 hangers, my total was $47 including about $6 on wrapping. They got a paper towel holder, splash guards for plates, spoon rest and the hangers. Ironically, Target messed up their registry online so three other people got them the same thing.